Friday, 26 April 2013

God's Original Design for Marriage

"The Fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.” – Proverbs 9:10

As I reflected on this verse, I realized that only as I hold God in reverence and make efforts to know Him and his ways more and more, will I gain true understanding. Keeping this in mind, I decided to study the book of Genesis once again, asking God at the beginning of every day’s study to open up his word to me, help me to absorb and assimilate what I learn into my being and to give me understanding.

As I studied the account of the creation of the Universe, the creation of Adam and Eve and the Fall of Man in Genesis chapters 1, 2 and 3, one thing struck me. Especially in relation to what the New Testament says about marriage (Love God, love one another), it is evident that originally marriage was supposed to be a reflection of the love between the three persons of the Godhead. The unity of purpose ("Let us make Man in our image" - Gen 1:26), the seamlessly complementing one another to complete the work and the harmony in accomplishment that the Godhead demonstrates helps us to discern the "us" within the "I". Just as the three persons of the Godhead communicate, cooperate and act as One with one accord, so the trinity of Man, Woman and God is to function in unison as a harmonious whole. 

However, we see in the 3rd chapter of Genesis, as we read about the Temptation of Eve and the Fall of Man, that when God is pushed out of the equation and disregarded, everything changes in the relationship between the man and the woman. Harmony is replaced by conflict; cooperation by competition; love by blame and fulfillment by discontent. And the man-woman relationships in the world today reflect this fact painfully.

After God lovingly prepared the perfect environment for the crowning glory of his Creation, "the Lord God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being" (Genesis 2:7). In the Bible, often the Spirit is symbolized by 'breath' or 'wind'. After creating Adam, God breathed his Spirit into him and it was God's Spirit that gave him life. The Spirit of God was essential to Adam's very existence.

Initially there was just God and Adam in the Garden of Eden. But then God did something to enhance even more Adam’s experience on Earth. He made a companion for him - Eve.

Genesis 2:21-22  - "So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man."

God created Eve out of Adam; she had been a part of him all along since his creation, but now God separated her from Adam and gave her to him as an individual distinct from him. When Adam woke up, he recognized her immediately as a complementary part of himself and joyfully received her. 

Genesis 2:23-24 - "The man said, 'This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.’ That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." 

Both Adam and Eve realized that they were made for each other and only in their union would they find complete fulfillment. The sum of the parts was greater and even more wonderful than the original whole! The three: God, Man and Woman interacted together in a way that was more meaningful than God and Man (who included in himself Woman) alone.

But the inclusion of the original Creator in the whole was absolutely essential. When he was pushed aside as ‘unnecessary’ for making decisions (when Eve and Adam decided to eat the forbidden fruit), the resultant split wrenched   Adam and Eve away from their triune relationship with God and caused humanity to fall with such a crash, that the cry of pain and distress from that fall resounded through generations and is still heard centuries later in the spiritual realm. Only by bringing God back into this equation can the damaged humanity be repaired and restored.

But sinful man is so far away from God that this is impossible, as God and sin cannot exist together. However, the love of God and the wisdom of God manifested in a wonderful plan of God. God sent the second person of the great, vast and eternal Trinity into the world; the infinite God finitely condensed and severely limited in the form of an infant born to a woman, who could exist with sinful man, because he was himself Man. Jesus demonstrated the love and saving power of God by taking upon himself the punishment of the sins of the entire human race, so that men and women who put their trust in him could have their sins cleansed, exchange them for the righteousness of Jesus Christ and be reunited with God.

Through the miracle of the resurrection and the coming of the Holy Spirit on the Day of Pentecost, the broken equation now can be completed and we become united with God again through Jesus by the Holy Spirit. Again in the Christian marriage is man, woman and God (the Holy Spirit existing in both the man and the woman) who cements the relationship, and thus the two become complete and can harmonize with one another as God intended from the beginning.



  1. Nice Blog truly interesting.
    This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
    Because if the Holy Spirit exists in one of the couple and not in the other, this union is incomplete and can never be fulfilling. The marriage will be full of conflicting interests and ultimately end in disaster.
    Yes this is what happens in our world of today.
    You have even given the solution.
    The unbelieving partner may ultimately come into the kingdom.

  2. Thank you. I'm glad you found it interesting.
    I have seen many unbelieving partners come into the kingdom, but it has been case after of case of both starting off not knowing God, then one being saved, standing for Christ and praying fervently for the other and then years later, the second partner comes into the kingdom.
    When the believing partner compromises by stopping going to church, not praying fervently and joining in with the other partner's ungodly activities, I have seen the opposite.